Frankly, for me, the catchy part of the title was the author’s name, Clive. Who is Clive and why is he interested in female partners? Honestly, when you read articles about business women, generally they are written by – well – women. So I really was interested in what Clive had to say…a new take…a fresh perspective.
My reaction to Clive’s take on female partners, sex discrimination, the old boys club, path to partnership, and how he ties this all into maternity leave was immediate and harsh. At first I was somewhat speechless – well, in truth, I was speechless for about 5 seconds before I launched into a verbal tirade about short sited warped logic that seemed to be saying that women needed to be protected from their own decisions to get pregnant, give birth, and to go on maternity leave.
As I see it, only in the business world would someone take such a supercilious and inflammatory position as to suggest that becoming a parent doesn’t bring with it some concessions. And yes, surprise, might negatively or at least temporarily impact your assent up the career ladder. So in case you haven’t figured it out, all decisions have consequences; and that includes the decision to have children.
If you are one of those women who thinks you can have it all, this series may not be for you. My take on the topic is probably somewhat different from the main stream. So, you might be somewhat distressed by my views.
I don’t believe that the answer to, “Can you have it all?” can be summed up in a simple article or two. In my opinion, the topic really deserves several in-depth chapters in a very thick book. Obviously, the answer to “Can you have it all?” is relative to where your personal beliefs lie in regards to the questions: What makes a good mother, employer, wife, etc?
As a former single mom [former because I have remarried], I am no stranger to the struggles faced by mothers who are also trying to juggle a career. Not only can I relate to the struggles of motherhood, I feel that I have a unique perspective since as a single mom, not only was I attempting to build my career, but I was also struggling with the needs of a disabled child.
When you read Mr. Howard’s article, he seems to infer that not only can we choose to “have it all”, but employers should provide an environment that promotes that choice.
You might be thinking – yes, employers should make concessions for me; I should be able to be a mother and an executive. But is that really true? Is that the best business position? Is that the best personal position?
In this series I will address these questions by sharing my personal journey as I strived to have it all.
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